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Thank you !

Dr Neufeld is absolutely spot on!

Thank you Dr. Neufeld! Thank you for putting the emphasis on the protection, support and nourishment our children need instead of focusing on results prematurely 拔苗助长. May we remember we are nature - with each meal we eat, each drink of water, each breath and the beating of our hearts, may we remember we are integrally connected to the world we have collectively devastated in so many ways and take up our responsibilities to heal

I like the concept but feel like it might be missing the other half of the story. In other words, is one always supposed to be dependent on the others? Is the Alpha always tied to their dependents? In marriage, if one spouse is dependent on the other but the other doesn't have the same level of reciprocity, it seems to me that could be highly problematic. Likewise for parent-child relationships. To use your example of fruit being dependent on the tree, does the fruit not fall off the tree and become its own tree, no longer being dependent on its parent tree?

Found this to be very healing on a personal level thank you

I cannot wait for this conversation ❤

Deeply resonates with my felt experience growing up and my own inner knowing. Thank you for putting words to this deep deep truth and naturalness. Could listen to you for days....

This is such an inspiring talk. I will highly recommend this to other families and friends.

You're a god send 🙏

Very insightful!!!! 🙏

This is definitely a wake up call for me, everything you talked about is the way I feel.. frustrating and lashing out.

So much wisdom, thank you for sharing this.

Genius ! Thank you , Dr Neufeld.

such invaluable information!!!

At t=10:50 is the concentrated wisdom: "you can't get to independence without going through dependence ... and some dependencies are forever"

At t=8:49 there a true piece of wisdom: "[lets] take care of the needs and not the demands"

Thank you for sharing this

Okay? So where’s the solutions, examples and scenarios? I feel like he’s using a lot of words and concepts but not explaining how or what the issues are. Everyone raves about this guy for learning how to parent but I have watched so much of his stuff on youtube and feel like I haven’t learned anything practical that I can apply, just concepts that I don’t know how to put into practice,

40:00 "I couldn't teach him; he didn't love me": Socrates. Oh what a profound quote. One could spend their entire life not grasping it's significance.

i've unfortunately missed signing up for this webinar series.. would there be an option to watch the videos by purchasing or watching them on the neufeld institute website? This work is so important!

Incredible!! Wish I could just absorb the wisdom!

Thank you for bringing to my attention to this book, it is now on my list "to read". To my dismay, a colleague of mine convinced her daughter to sleep train her 6 months old infant. She is 7 months old and is now refusing food, she had no issues before. As a midwife interested in attachment, my first thought was that the connection and trust between this infant/ mother had been damaged and that was the infant'response to it (if no other physical reasons). I just wondered how it could be since rationnal thinking is not yet developped at that age. In view of what you talked about, it sheds light on this behaviour.

Hello. I went to your website and clicked all the links as I am trying to purchase the Mandarin translation of “Rest, Play, Grow”, but came up with nothing. A direct link in reply to this comment would be very much appreciated.

Where can i find the rest of the conference ? Thank you indeed it is very helpful and truly insightful ! I enjoyed watching this for few days now to get the information stick . 😊

Please put here or in the description box the links for this workshop.

Wrap your clothes around the baby (the smell stays with them) 25:24 Sing in the house so the baby can hear you close 25:40 Utilise all senses. Must have a sense of connection before going to sleep (they must sense that you’re the Alpha) 26:50 Create the village - make times for others to hold and care for and bond with the baby 27:28 (before 5 months of age the baby doesn’t have ‘stranger protest’ and can transfer attachment with others) Shyness - shows that you have to create a bigger ‘village’ for their personality to show 30:10 (bring school teacher into the village)

What do you do when your 16 year old autistic son is still so dependent on you, but outwardly looks like he can care for himself so that others and even myself wonder if he’s just manipulating me? And on top of that is having anger outbursts and aggression towards me? Is he just having a very bad attitude like people tell me (and say I’m enabling him and I should send him to live with his dad) or do I continue to let him live with me and thus how to make him more independent at 16? And not be aggressive with me

Its too disjointed to understand.. Just honest feedback.

Thank you, this is an excellent perspective. Useful and transformative.

Amazing lecture! I don’t get why so few people actually watched it. People should watch it.

When my twins were very young (2-3 years old) my husband would travel for work a lot and they were constantly panicked. We ended up making a picture book for the kids called “We love Daddy!” full of photos and stories of them together, and I sewed a very simple “Daddy Doll” for the kids. They slept with it every single night for years! I love hearing the science behind why these strategies worked so well.

Thank you for this great appetizer for this wonderful enlightening conference! I loved ALL sessions! And I look forward to the next conference - as well as to Deborah’s book on food and relationship and gathering to eat… Maria from Germany

I will pay the fee to watch the full conference but why was there no advanced notice on this 'Neufeldmedia' RUclips channel about this conference? I had no idea that this had taken place. I will know better for next year.

Wow, this presentation brought tears to my eyes. I can resonate with every thing said here by Dr. Neufeld in which what was said makes complete sense to me. How we have lost our ways and to think we continue to bring children into this world without a clue yet think we know something about nothing. Thank you to technology for bringing this presentation onto my screen. For without this screen time I’m not sure I would’ve had the pleasure of getting to hear this and to see a passion come through somehow in screen by this person. Thank you, Shannon

The Croods' sleep pile seems like a good move, doesn't it?

🌳🤘🏼🌳🤘🏼Your empathy tree rocks! Your peach tree reference makes empathy to understand. Thank you! 💙💛💙💛

Thank you Mr. Neufeld! I feel so priviliged to have your wisdom guiding me as both a mother and a teacher. Just breaks my heart to see so little of you mention in my school, society, country...here in Spain the paradigms favour peer orientation and the results are devastating...

I am so glad that siblings were brought up. I actually thought that the moderator addressed (from her own parenting experience) the question more clearly than Neufeld did. He seemed to impose a hierarchical relationship between older & younger siblings. But the moderator explained that the horizontal plane of social relationships actually made itself felt in the family unit, so the parent had to bring the focus back to them as the consistently safe attachment, and to step back from the sibling dynamic. Very clear example & explanation that was then picked up by Neufeld. 👏🏽 to both

The Most Loving I have listened to, ever! What a Beautiful Soul you are, who can put words, on this, in a simple way, everone could be able to understand. I Feel, the difference directly today, and thats a Miracle, cause life, can shut this down in all of us, not only children. I have worked like this all life, comes naturally when it works well in us. And brings Happy Feelings in All, when its natural daily. We need Caring Good People around, Always. And in all work with human beings being humane :) So much missing today, in schools pre-schools, youngsters educations, and old age homes in my country, too often. This is what all young persons need to Feel, its comes Natural, when we are natural and direct between us all. Whitout building good relations, we cannot give this naturally. So Beautiful to listen, when someone set words, to all one has done all life, and to have this as an inner driving force to Share all this, is so Important to us all <3 Thank You so much!

Absolutely wonderful! Thank you for making this talk available on RUclips. I will share this whenever and wherever I possibly can.

fabulous lecture, thank you ♥

Thank you ❤️

I agree with you on attachment and the need for relationships. But the idea that kids have things they care for taken away from them too often I think could get skewed. In my experience, kids care too much about stuff and too little about relationships. Maybe because they weren't shown to care, but taking away 'things' doesn't seem like it should have that much effect unless they aren't securely attached to human relationships. We all have things that can be taken from us and we don't always have control over that. But we can still care about a lot of things..

I love all of these insights! Another mom in the Well-Educated Heart community shared this video and I am so glad I came across it. I am definitely guilty of not starting because I am afraid the product won’t be ‘good enough.’ I really should trust myself in the process more often - and encourage my children to do the same. I am also guilty of waiting until stressful times or overwhelm to think, “Oh, I should go for a walk/put on some music/etc.” I am going to try to be better at making it part of my normal routine. Thank you for providing your help to parents and educators!

This was so helpful, thank you.

Ok but all I want to figure out is how to get my 10mo into her own bed. I am happy for it to be in my room, but bed sharing is exhausting and she's started rolling off the bed even with barriers at the sides. I can't anymore 😭😭😭😭😭

Fantastic way of looking at stress. It makes complete sense